How to Have A

Joyous Marriage!

by Roderick C. Meredith

Here are "keys' to help make your

marriage special! These insights and

tested principles will help you build

your marriage into a precious

relationship of joy and beauty.

HJM4 Edition 1.3, May 1996

This booklet is not to be sold!

It has been provided as a free public educational

service by the Global Church of God


All rights reserved. Printed in the U.S.A.

Editor in Chief
Roderick C. Meredith
Executive Editor
Raymond F. McNair
Managing Editor
Jeffrey H. Patton
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Gary Foster
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Bradley J. Mitchell
Contributing Editor
Ronald B. Nelson
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With tears in their eyes, dozens and scores of women have told me how miserable their marriages were. They obviously
wish with all their hearts that things were better, but they don't know what to do.

"My husband won't really open up and talk with me about our problems", many women say.

"My psychologist told me to go have an affair and I would feel better," one woman said. "But I know that's wrong and I just
can't do that!"

In our "now generation," most folks don't think of the long-term consequences of their actions, and our acceptance of "quickie"
marriages and divorces only compounds the problem. Why try to work through all the problems in your marriage when you
can just divorce and feel better right now?

In an outstanding recent article, former Secretary of Education, William J. Bennett, made these insightful comments: "...but
during the same recent 30-year period there has been a 560% increase in violent crime; a 419% increase in illegitimate births; a
quadrupling in divorce rates; a tripling of the percentage of children living in single-parent homes; more than a 200%
increase in the teenage suicide rate; and a drop of almost 80 points in SAT scores....!"

If you wish to avoid the misery of this foolish generation, then read carefully and prayerfully the pages to follow. For we are
going to discuss seven vital keys to building and enriching the very basis of all decent society--your marriage and your family.

I. Commitment is basic

The expression "till death do us part" may seem old fashioned or passé to many young people. But those same couples may be
suffering loneliness, emptiness and misery if they leave that concept out of their marriages.

Yet today, most people take for granted the modern option of leaving their mate and forsaking their marriage vows. Many
couples plan for the eventuality of divorce by having a lawyer write up a prenuptial agreement. Then they promise to stay
together for life, but insist on acting "prudently" to protect their assets in case the marriage doesn't last.

This idea may seem wise and prudent, but is it really?


The common acceptance of the "escape hatch" of an easy divorce creates a vicious cycle. The more some people divorce, the
easier it seems for others to do likewise. And the breakdown of a society has begun!

Nearly all thoughtful men and women realize that a stable home and family is basic for a decent society. As our homes and
marriages come apart, so the wildness, ruthlessness and violence in our society will increase.

It is vital that we all grasp that the basis for marriage itself is the supreme purpose of our Creator! That's right! If you leave the
great God who made us male and female out of the picture, then human reason is the only basis for anything--and absolute
chaos will ensue.

It is God who said:

"Let us make man in our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the
air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth." So God created man in His
own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. Then God blessed them, and God said to
them, "Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the